The Trouble with Sharing a Sleeping Space

The Trouble with Sharing a Sleeping Space

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In a previous post, we mentioned that the innovative minds behind Simmons Beautyrest were the first to introduce the King size mattress to the world.  As a result, sharing a sleeping space became a much more enjoyable activity for couples.  Unfortunately, even with the increase in bed size and all of the modern day advancements to better your sleep, many couples still face issues when it comes to sharing a bed.

Some of the most commonly discussed issues when it comes to sharing a bed include:

  1. Snoring
  2. Differences in sleep schedule
  3. Children
  4. Temperature of the bed/room
  5. And of course, a lot more
Spousal Arousal Syndrome

Spousal Arousal Syndrome

In fact, there is actually a diagnosis for disrupted sleep due to a sleeping partner.  It’s called spousal arousal syndrome (SAS) and, according to can lead to “daytime fatigue and irritability, weight gain, higher blood pressure and memory issues.”  In addition, “the non-snoring partner also has an increased propensity for accidents or illness and many other problems associated with sleep deprivation…they also may struggle with low self-esteem and have a decreased interest in sex” (Spousal Arousal Syndrome: Sleeping with a Snoring Spouse).

Learn more here.

Sleep disruption due to sharing a sleeping space is becoming such a problem that a surprising (or not so surprising?) new trend has sprung up amidst new houses being built:  separate master suites.  According to a New York Times article, “Not since the Victorian age of starched sheets and starchy manners, builders and architects say, have there been so many orders for separate bedrooms” (To Have, Hold and Cherish, Until Bedtime).  Most couples explain that the decision is based almost entirely on a desire to get away from the snoring, insomnia, or other sleeping habits of their partner.  The article states that by 2015, an estimated 60% of new homes will be built with separate master bedrooms.

While there are a number of benefits to sleeping with your partner, it is obviously not for everyone.  Maybe separate sleeping quarters is exactly what your relationship needs.  To each their own, I always say.

If you think that your partner’s snoring is more than just a nighttime nuisance, you should urge him or her to see a doctor.  Sleep Apnea is a serious sleep disorder and can lead to a number of complications if left untreated.

Before you build a separate wing for yourself or your spouse, be sure to make sure your bed isn’t your issue.  Many cases of tossing and turning can be solved by simply purchasing a new mattress or pillow.

Finally, one of the best ways to ensure a good night’s sleep is to establish good sleep hygiene.  Read our blog to learn more.

Cheers and sleep well.